Mistakes in parenting

About the Author

author photo

Ohg Rea Tone is all or nothing. He is educated and opinionated, more clever than smart, sarcastic and forthright. He writes intuitively - often disregarding rules of composition. Comment on his posts - he will likely respond with characteristic humor or genuine empathy. He is the real-deal.

See All Posts by This Author

Mistakes in parenting

Son,

I feel a little embarrassed about giving advice on parenting. Your mother and I were talking last week and we both felt that our children turned out pretty well – in spite of us.

I talk today about acting out of love – but that was not really my style. I was a parent in much the same way that I was parented. My behavior was not thoughtful or considerate – It was dogmatic – not written dogma – but the dogma of my family of origin.

It is only in retrospect that I can see the truth. So sometimes I feel a little hypocritical about giving any advice on parenting. I learned the most from my mistakes – not so much from my successes.

They say insanity is hereditary – you get it from your children. My love of my children forced me to assess myself and my behavior. Any sanity I have today is the result of an honest evaluation of what I did as a parent of young children.

Your mother and I were too young to have children. We had no idea of who we were, let alone any understanding of what we should be teaching others. We talk. We both agree that we were too young. But neither of us would do anything different because we are both so proud of our children. Well – there are a few things I would do different – but my regrets inform my person today.

Dad

There Is 1 Response So Far. »

  1. I treasure the advice given, especially from the lessons learned by mistakes. Those are the lessons that seem to stick with us the most. I also think that you can still be an example without feeling guilty from being hypocritical because you can and are still processing your life and learning. You have valuable thoughts to share because you have already been through it. We can begin processing sooner because of the lessons you have to share.

Post a Response