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Feelings! Legitimate Or Not

In cognitive behavioral treatment we learn to think, then feel, then act.  Some folks get into trouble when the feel, act, then think.  My personal notion is that we always think first; the question is why do we think such negative thoughts that result in hurt feelings and thus bad behavior? I did four years […]

15Dec2017 | | 1 comment | Continued
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Life Lessons, Set In Concrete

The ‘twoness’ of humanity is all around us.  The good and the bad, the yin and the yang, the frailty of human character.  My father, as I have said before, was both a great man and a monstrous brute.  I do not know if his greatness won the final battle – but I suspect it […]

13Dec2017 | | 1 comment | Continued
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Poverty And No Birth Control

I have written about the ‘twoness’ of parenthood.  The paradox of love versus stress.  My parents were not different than other parents.  They loved us even when they were unable to express the love overtly.  When my father came home from the War in Europe he reunited with my mother, they were promptly married, and […]

9Dec2017 | | 1 comment | Continued
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Twoness, The Paradox of Parenthood

I am a young Senior citizen.  As such one might deduce that my parents were part of “the greatest generation”.  That would be correct.  My parents grew up during the depression.  My father fought in World War Two.  Have I mentioned that there were seven children in my family?  My mother stayed home to raise […]

7Dec2017 | | 0 comments | Continued
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No Yellow Ribbons Here

What are some words used to describe me?  Intense, forceful, resolute, aggressive, difficult, stubborn, unyielding, Aries – You get the idea – My history is one of confrontation and unforgiving in-your-face anger. There are regular videos on facebook of soldiers returning home unannounced to reunite with their families.  The families choke up and well with […]

5Dec2017 | | 0 comments | Continued
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Thomas Franklin, New Fireside Contributor

Thomas Franklin and I became friends in 2006.  He was an inpatient at a Substance Abuse Treatment Center where I served as a counselor.  That program was a 21 day residential care.  There was a stipend program at the Center.  This allowed up to two clients to remain residents, receive free food, and free intensive […]

2Dec2017 | | 1 comment | Continued
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Baseball Rebellion

I did not play baseball as a child.  I hardly knew such a thing existed.  One Spring day, long ago, I was wandering the St. Joseph, Missouri, streets with my brothers.  As we passed the Noyes Baseball Field I noticed several of my school mates dressed in uniform and playing baseball on the well manicured […]

26Nov2017 | | 3 comments | Continued
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Equality Is Not Tangible

I am all for equality between the sexes. Always have been, I guess. As a Baby Boomer, I have seen a whole lot of it not being that way. Equality is easily defined on paper and somehow in life it gets spread out, the lines get blurred and more difficult to find the easy divisions […]

16Nov2017 | | 0 comments | Continued
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Who Pulled Your Chain

Pardon my OCD a moment please. Sometimes I get intrigued (my chain gets pulled) by words and/or phrases I hear or read. The phrase in question “Shut your mouth your mind is hanging out” was spoken by one cowboy to another in a movie my husband was watching yesterday evening and I, by consequence, was […]

25Oct2017 | | 0 comments | Continued
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In Defense of the St. Joseph, Missouri, School Tax Levy 2017

Larry Koch is a member of the St. Joseph, Missouri, School District Board of Directors.  There is a levy on the ballot and the following was a facebook post by Mr. Koch.  I thought it was well thought out and well written. There are two issues: 1) Does the school district need more money? and […]

22Oct2017 | | 0 comments | Continued
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Stand For Defense of Constitution

From a post by Nancy: Well… Can’t speak for all Americans, but sometimes I get peeved and as an American that loves my freedoms and ability to choose my actions and beliefs… Demanding and legislating that everyone must stand for the Anthem is the WRONG way to go. Should proud citizens of the USA show […]

20Oct2017 | | 1 comment | Continued
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NFL, NASCAR and America

So the Divisionaries continue to divide… It’s true that NASCAR has only had 4 black drivers in its history, notably one being a black woman. Yet, the popularity of the sport fades in the light of Football. Where 64% of Americans claim to be fans. Break that down to 73% of men and 55% of […]

26Sep2017 | | 3 comments | Continued
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Kansas City City Market, Beignet, and Moody Football Fans

We invested a day at the Kansas City City Market.  Today, in fact.  A Sunday and the Chiefs are playing – but we have a DVR and are recording the game.  We are at the market to meet family and are hoping that we do not inadvertently hear the score of the game.  We did […]

17Sep2017 | | 0 comments | Continued
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It’s a Cat’s Life

I have a barn/porch cat, her name is Skeeter aka Trouble, who would dearly love to be an indoor/outdoor cat. Especially on cold days, 60 degrees appears to be her cue to want in.  She is in this predicament, because after being in the house for several months, or a year, I forget, she became […]

10Sep2017 | | 0 comments | Continued
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Chief’s Football Analysis by PEG

Well….I must comment on the KC Chiefs victory last night. Those of you who know me well….after being a lifetime fan, who remembers watching the Chiefs Win the Super Bowl in 1970, know the Chiefs lost my unconditional love after they lost 1998 AFC Divisional Home Game (13-3, home field advantage, 1st round bye) to […]

10Sep2017 | | 0 comments | Continued
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The Moderate White American, Shameful Acts of Cowardly Comfort.

That title represents bold words for a one-eyed-fat-man.  I have two eyes.  I am also the alter-ego of an old white man – and my fellow white people, intelligent political moderates, have come up short in the advancing civilized struggle for morality and justice. People throughout my life have been weary of any direct confrontation […]

3Sep2017 | | 2 comments | Continued
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A Visit To The ER

I cut my finger.  Or perhaps I should say my finger was in the way when the door was closing.  I thought for a moment the finger was broken but it turned out to be only a bone deep cut.  My deductible for an ER visit is seventy-five dollars – what to do?  After a […]

12Jun2017 | | 0 comments | Continued
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A Few Thoughts On Tiger Woods Recent DUI

From a friend: A few thoughts on Tiger Woods. Regardless of whether you like him or not and for whatever reason you like him or not, I think the police dodged a bullet on this one. We’ve all seen the videos, some of you may see a drunk, some may see a drug addict, some […]

4Jun2017 | | 1 comment | Continued
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AARP Is A Communist Plot To Destroy America!

Allow me to first reveal my bias.  I am a member of AARP.  I am over sixty years old.  I am a male.  I am educated.  I know how to type.  There!  Now you know my background.  AARP is very obviously a communist plot to destroy America.  We need only look at the AARP Bulletin, […]

16Mar2017 | | 2 comments | Continued
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Fireside Issues | Abortion

If you want to end the practice of abortion, as I do, you will have to do that in partnership with women and providers.

29Jan2017 | | 3 comments | Continued
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Truth Versus Faith

Truth, belief, and faith – three legs on the stool of human endeavor.  We seem to require all three but only truth can be measured and verified.  Some people will get all up in arms about at that statement.  They will say that I am challenging their faith.  I am not.  I am only saying […]

2Jan2017 | | 3 comments | Continued
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Terror Pranks By Brothers

It was 1955.  I remember because I was on the receiving end of an older brother prank.  (I have said before that I come by my  prank-ing personality honestly – this is an example).  In previous posts I tried to explain my pranks on my younger brothers in a manner that most excuses my errant […]

31Dec2016 | | 2 comments | Continued
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Older Brothers and Pranks

Whether I come by my fascination with pranks honestly or not is sometimes irrelevant. I say ‘honestly’ because I come from a family of pranksters.  And my two older brothers often tested their pranks on me. What was I to do, I passed the pranks on to my younger siblings. Like the time when I […]

30Dec2016 | | 2 comments | Continued
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A 1964 Christmas Story

It was 1964. Life hadn’t been great for the girl, but this particular year had been mostly a nightmare. Her Mother and Step-Father had separated. Finances were next to non existent. School for the girl became a burden on the mother. At only 15 she was resigned to possibly never finishing high school. She was […]

12Dec2016 | | 1 comment | Continued
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thefiresidepost.com is Back On Line. Bluehost, SiteLock, and Malware

What a pain in the whazoo.  Sorry for the down time folks.  We are back on line.  Here is the deal as I understand it. I am not a good wordpress site administrator.  My son usually does that work but he actually has a real job so I have been taking care of updating our […]

1Dec2016 | | Comments Off on thefiresidepost.com is Back On Line. Bluehost, SiteLock, and Malware | Continued
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Artistic Interpretation of Trump Victory

Ben Franklin was a Founding Father who used political cartoons as a means of persuasion.  With biting with he would cause a person to reflect and reconsider.  And that was not his day job.  Some people are just naturally gifted at imagery and symbolism used a tools for thoughtful discourse.  I am no expert on […]

13Nov2016 | | Comments Off on Artistic Interpretation of Trump Victory | Continued
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My Psychiatric Nerve

I have problems; always have had, likely always will.   One of the problems is in naming my problems.  Naming problems is categorically dependent.  When naming a problem, do I use the language of religion, psychiatry, layman, political party – or some variation of modern self-help-ism.  As with most spoken words it depends on the audience. […]

7Nov2016 | | Comments Off on My Psychiatric Nerve | Continued
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New Fireside Post Format

Well, here we are, almost ten years into the grand experiment of a father and son chat on the internet.  We quickly became thefiresidepost.com and have had a couple of major upgrades since.  My son, the Administrator of this magazine, got a new job, went back to school, had more children, yadda, yadda… He became […]

27Oct2016 | | Comments Off on New Fireside Post Format | Continued
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Donald Trump Late Night jokes

“Yesterday, Donald Trump said, ‘If I lose, I don’t think you’ll ever see me again.’ So finally, a Trump campaign slogan we can all get behind.” –Conan O’Brien

24Oct2016 | | Comments Off on Donald Trump Late Night jokes | Continued
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More Donald Trump Jokes

“Over the weekend, three pages of Donald Trump’s 1995 tax return were leaked, revealing that he declared a $916 million loss from his three Atlantic City casinos. That’s right. Donald Trump lost money on casinos. You know what they say, ‘The house always loses.’” –Stephen Colbert “You started your campaign by accusing Mexicans of being […]

24Oct2016 | | Comments Off on More Donald Trump Jokes | Continued
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My First Tattoo

Oceanside, California, is located on the border of Camp Pendleton, that really big Marine base.  I was there.  Not Camp Pendleton, Oceanside.  It was 1969 and I was doing what I would later learn was called a ‘walkabout’.   I was drifting with the wind, facing the draft, Vietnam, adulthood, and ultimately responsibility.  Oceanside was […]

26Sep2016 | | 1 comment | Continued
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BREAKING NEWS!!!

BREAKING NEWS!!:  We just realized today that, based on historical statistics, our mortality may be in jeopardy.  Seriously, we cannot support the idea of immortality with any historical facts.  And even more serious – aren’t these statements obvious!  So why did I start with “BREAKING NEWS!!!” I was born at about the same time as […]

21Sep2016 | | 1 comment | Continued
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Donald Trump Jokes

“Last night, Donald Trump said if he’s elected, he will employ a ‘deportation task force.’ It’s not really necessary, because if he’s elected most people will probably leave voluntarily.” –Conan O’Brien “The Boston Globe just reported that according to his campaign staff, Donald Trump wouldn’t take any vacations as president. I think that’s because he […]

15Sep2016 | | Comments Off on Donald Trump Jokes | Continued
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“Undocumented Immigrants” Are Not Criminals

There are graduated laws identifying the seriousness of offense. The undocumented immigrant ‘violation’ is in the nature of a misdemeanor – more like a traffic violation than an armed robbery. Our system of justice uproots lives and sends someone to prison in only the most egregious of violations. To uproot and deport someone on the […]

5Sep2016 | | Comments Off on “Undocumented Immigrants” Are Not Criminals | Continued
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Clinton Trump Debate Can Go Off The Rails

WOW!  We are in for a treat.  Maybe I should restate that – if we like fireworks we might like the Clinton Trump Debates.  If we like the idea of diplomats debating world affairs we are probably not going to enjoy the evening.  Let the debates begin – with more potential for fireworks than any […]

30Aug2016 | | 1 comment | Continued
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Ignorant Voters Challenge One’s Sanity

I actually know some of these people.  This conversation showed up on my facebook page.  These people are angry because Obama will not let them vote a ‘split ticket’ in the August Primary Election.  They throw terms around like “constitutional rights”  and “denied the right to vote”.  These people are Trump supports and they are […]

5Aug2016 | | 4 comments | Continued
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Oh Lord Won’t You Give Me?

I loved and love Janis Joplin. I like the song she sang, Mercedes Benz, because it reminds me of a Church I attended with a friend when I was about 16. It was located in South St. Joseph. There was a neon sign outside proclaiming PENTECOSTAL SOMETHING OR OTHER CHURCH. A bright white two story […]

31Jul2016 | | 0 comments | Continued
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Refried Beans In My Chili

OK – right up front, I am an anomaly.  Just about every group of people that I run across eventually figures this out.  This reality struck me yesterday when I was thinking about supper.  Bored and not willing to invest the time in some cuisine of taste and health I rummaged around in my pantry, […]

22Jun2016 | | 2 comments | Continued
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White Suits

Mark Twain enters my mind, Takes a seat, and I become his front porch.   For a man with such great potential Of explosive wit and verbiage– He says nothing as he strikes A match…   …And lights a fine Cuban cigar.   The sun is shining brightly so That the white suit he so […]

21Jun2016 | | 1 comment | Continued
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My Practicality

  My practicality is a pesky little imp. Like a gremlin sabotaging my Creativity.   My creativity rests in the bosom Of Mystery; And this fair lady–she always beckons.   She pleads with me to embrace her, Ungrip the secure and chase her.   And I start to run–   But I find myself tethered. […]

9Jun2016 | | 3 comments | Continued
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Once Upon a Time in St. Joe

Once Upon a Time in St. Joe The dross falls away and she stands revealed. I have been talking at length with a dream. The coal train moves on; her rails course the fields. The nights fall, the conversations appeal, We meet for coffee, she takes hers with cream. The dross falls away and she […]

5Jun2016 | | 4 comments | Continued
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Josh Has Joined thefiresidepost.com

Josh was once a good boy.  He lost his way.  We find him today hanging out with the outlaw of his family – Ohg Tone. Seriously, Josh is my nephew, and a fine writer.  I have watched him over the years, watched him grow in to a young man, watched him explore religion, watched him […]

31May2016 | | 2 comments | Continued
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My Curiosity Defeats My Timidity

As the title eludes, I like to think I have a defense from fear. Many long years ago, my eldest son was about three. Our yard was fenced in and the best place for him and his sister to be in the summer. Our house was not air-conditioned.  This particular day I was visiting with […]

28May2016 | | 0 comments | Continued
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Where is Woody Guthrie

It was hot. And dry. The wind blew and a dust storm raged. People finally just started calling it a dust bowl. The Midwest was overwhelmed with drought, the country overwhelmed with depression. People got tired. They got hungry. They got desperate. They could not feed their children. But they heard a story, a story […]

15May2016 | | 4 comments | Continued
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The “Shoulds” of Life Have Me Down

I have been a responsible man for most of my life.  Some would challenge that point – because my failures have stood out like atomic bombs.  As a Senior Citizen I don’t face too many life changing events or decisions.  But I do have some responsibilities and those become the burrs under my saddle – […]

10Apr2016 | | Comments Off on The “Shoulds” of Life Have Me Down | Continued
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Karma and Life Lessons

Shorthand, I know what it is, but can’t read it. Many years ago at Lowy Enterprises. I received a promotion to work with Dave in Accounts Receivable. At high school I refused typing and shorthand because I didn’t plan on being any man’s secretary, Hah. So, one of my new jobs was to take dictation […]

5Apr2016 | | 1 comment | Continued
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Our Social Media Audience Influences What We Share

Coming to you straight from St. Joseph, Missouri – a place I call home.  Our homes are built on many years of experience.  What appears to be clutter is often a memory of time gone by.  Most of my social media ‘friends’ are from around northwest Missouri.  St. Joseph schools educated me, work took me […]

3Mar2016 | | 2 comments | Continued
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Another Senseless Death from Drug Addiction

Another young man from St. Joseph died this past weekend – apparently from long term drug addiction.  I knew him.  I knew him when he was about seven years old.  I also knew his family.  He was second generation drug addict.  Not his parents, as far as I know, but many of his aunts and […]

2Mar2016 | | 1 comment | Continued
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Mixed Blessings, Home Remodeling, and painting the carpet

I have been furiously cleaning house for visitors over the holidays.  I am faithful about this chore, every eleven years I clean the house whether it needs it or not.  This time it is so bad that I decided the best way to cover the dirt was to simply paint it. I have been painting […]

22Dec2015 | | Comments Off on Mixed Blessings, Home Remodeling, and painting the carpet | Continued
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Jelly and Rocket Science

Someone I love has a favorite expression, “it’s not rocket science”, he will say this when someone is having difficulty understanding his direction. Last Summer I attempted to make Elderberry Jelly. It had been nearly two decades since the last time I made this loved delicacy. Nearly every where I have lived as an adult, […]

19Dec2015 | | 0 comments | Continued