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Comments on a Life of Chaos

Did you ever know anyone who just seemed to live their life in constant chaos?  Most likely.  Chaos can become a part of our cultural understanding of the world around us.  People raised in chaos often live chaotic lives.  Some attempt a life of moderation – but under duress often resort to extreme chaos or [...]

28Aug2009 | Ohg Rea Tone | 0 comments | Continued
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Middle School Social Regulation, Part II

As noted in a previous post I have been assigned the job of head chauffeur for my grand daughter in middle school.   Her parents moved out of State and she stayed behind to finish the school year.  She lives with her grandmother.  Enough of that – I pick her up every day from school and [...]

17Apr2009 | Ohg Rea Tone | 0 comments | Continued
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Middle School, Learning to Say NO!

The adventures of grandpa as the driver for my thirteen year old granddaughter continue.  Her family moved to Texas or Wyoming, I can never remember which, and she is staying with her Nana to finish out the school year.  She was not ready to punch cows, and lasso boys.  Anyway, my job is of after-school-driver.  [...]

9Mar2009 | Ohg Rea Tone | 0 comments | Continued
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Middle School, Crash Course in Social Regulation

I have been relegated to driver – and drivers are best seen and not heard. The girls chat, and chat, and chat. I think they call each other on their cell phones and talk to each other in the car. I drop the first girl off and twenty seconds later she is calling one of the remaining girls in the car. Chat, chat, chat. That is how it goes. They talk about how other students were dressed, what was said in response to question from the teachers, and other things that I do not quite understand. They speak the language of the future – I speak the language of the past.

5Mar2009 | Ohg Rea Tone | 1 comment | Continued
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Caring For An Old Dog

Sadie is almost sixteen years old, her birthday is next July.  She is beginning to show the inevitable signs of aging.  Sadie has moved from the definition of ‘Senior” to something resembling ‘Elderly.’  Watching her age is painful – and presents moral and economic delimas.
Sadie is half Schnauzer and half Cocker Spaniel – sort of [...]

20Feb2009 | Ohg Rea Tone | 0 comments | Continued
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Enabling Our Children to Fail

Son,
Please forgive me. You mentioned in an earlier post that you “…occasionally found myself in trouble.” I share in the fault. I will give you the notion that you were an adolescent, seeking independence and control of your own life. I will give you that adolescents make some bad choices. But I have to own [...]

9Sep2007 | Ohg Rea Tone | 0 comments | Continued
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The pain of cultural frontiers

Son,
You are exploring cultural frontiers. You have left the safe harbor of familiarity to seek new ideas about living. Like Lewis and Clark, you find fear and uncertainty. I admire your courage.
What is courage, Son? When people act on their convictions, even knowing that there will be pain associated with their behavior, we call that [...]

7Sep2007 | Ohg Rea Tone | 2 comments | Continued