Son,

I continue my diatribe on behavior, inspired by Bill Cosby. Many of us venture out into the world with fundamentally reckless attitudes that get us into trouble. The real dilemma is that the reckless attitude itself denies that it exists – that is a reckless attitude. I found some literature on this – again it is not my own – just copied and worn print from others.

Reckless Attitude Indicators

Trying to prove incapability.

Exhibiting self-pity.

Making excuses.

Complaining about fake or minor aches and pains.

Refusing to do anything they consider boring or disagreeable.

Saying, “I don’t get it,” or “I can’t.”

Doing only what will get them by.

Exerting lots of energy into risky, exciting, or illegal acts.

Not sticking with projects.

Not following through with promises.

Looking for the easy way out.

Giving up easily.

Showing no initiative.

Unwilling to try anything ‘unexciting.”

Choosing to stay angry.

Choosing to stay in self-pity.

Choosing risk.

Choosing to use tactics, knowing they are tactics.

The Daily Effort of Change:

1. Complete disagreeable chores and tasks on a daily basis in order to achieve short and long-term goals.

2. Follow through and persevere.

3. Make decisions after considering the facts.

4. Recognize that the process of self-discipline is more valuable than reaching the goal or achieving temporary but costly thrills.

Learning to live responsibly – putting thoughts into action; Get a piece of paper and a pen:

1. List five tasks you find disagreeable and don’t like doing.

2. List three good intentions you have not carried out.

3. Describe a current situation that requires you to make a decision.

4. List three healthy recreational activities you have never experienced. (examples: play racquetball, play chess, attend a live play, visit a museum, etc.)

Now take action:

1. Do all the disagreeable tasks

2. Carry out all of your good intentions.

3. Make a responsible decision on how to improve a meaningful relationship.

4. Do a healthy recreational activity you have never done before.

You are on your way – life takes effort and practice.

Dad

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